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For my own future reference

And because I think it's important.

[info]cluegirl posted an entry here on how to react to someone you know telling you they were raped.  Incredibly thought out, and from not only a survivor, but someone who's going through a special program to help victims deal with this sort of assult.

I've only had to react to this sort of thing twice in my life, which I suppose makes me very lucky, but I'm fairly sure I sucked at it then. 


Oct. 6th, 2009 12:46 am (UTC)
I read that and saw all the "what not to says", do you know if there's a list out there of "what to say"? I've never had anybody reveal something like that to me, and I'm sure "Oh man, that sucks" is probably not the most supportive of things to say, but really, what do you say to something like that?
Oct. 6th, 2009 12:53 am (UTC)
Not sure. But really, this list does say what to say, if you read the detail. Her basic statement is, "listen, and make sure she's gone to the hospital. Anything else isn't necessary."

And yeah, that was pretty much my response: "What do I say to that?" Which isn't helpful for anyone. So this way, I've got something to refer to if, god forbid, I ever have to talk to someone about that again.
Oct. 8th, 2009 08:00 am (UTC)
Ask yourselves what you'd want people to say if it were you. Support, care, understanding - no matter how it comes out. That should be about it. And I am sure "that sucks" works too, although it could probably be voiced more elaborately. :)
Oct. 8th, 2009 02:47 pm (UTC)
*nods* Both times, I was just so stunned, it was hard to figure out anything to say. Mostly, I think I just listened. Might have been a few "fuck"s here or there.